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Asking for Referrals

Key Takeaways

  • Ask for an optional introduction without promising a success rate

  • Protect the privacy and contact preferences of both people

  • Use firm approval for referral compensation, gifts, testimonials and endorsements

Last updated: November 2026

Asking for an Introduction

An introduction can give a prospective client context. It does not guarantee fit, a sale or permission to contact someone. Ask only when appropriate to the relationship and make a refusal easy.

A Simple Invitation

"If someone you know would find a conversation helpful, you are welcome to share my approved contact details. There is no obligation to introduce anyone."

SituationRespectful Approach
A client compliments your workThank them; ask whether they would be comfortable sharing your details
Someone offers an introductionLet the prospective client choose whether to respond
A client cannot think of anyoneAccept the answer without repeated requests
A client dislikes mixing business and friendshipRespect the boundary without asking for another favor

An accurate description of whom you serve may help. Do not pressure a client to disclose a friend's sensitive financial circumstances or supply a contact list.

Make It Easy and Protect Privacy

  1. Offer firm-approved contact information or an introduction template.
  2. Let the client and prospective client choose the channel and whether to participate.
  3. Check applicable outreach restrictions; a mutual friend is not automatic consent.
  4. Thank the introducer without disclosing whether the person became a client or details of their finances unless an appropriate permission or legal basis exists.

Gifts, Payments and Public Praise

Do not promise cash, a fee discount or a gift for a referral without compliance review. Broker-dealer payments may raise registration issues under FINRA Rule 2040. For advisers subject to the SEC marketing rule, testimonials, endorsements and compensated referrals can trigger disclosure, oversight, written-agreement and eligibility requirements, subject to specific exceptions. A small gift is not automatically exempt. State requirements and firm policies may also apply.

Do not suggest a public review as a workaround for a client who declines introductions. Obtain approval before requesting or reusing testimonials, client stories or performance claims. Calling a referral an introduction does not change the applicable requirements.

Sources: SEC marketing guide, FINRA Rule 2040, SEC privacy rule.

Roleplay Scenario

The Perfect Moment

A happy client after a great annual review

Setup

After a positive review, a client thanks you. Practice responding appreciatively and, if appropriate, offering an optional introduction. A favorable outcome does not create an obligation to refer or a promise of future results.

Client says:

“Wow, I can't believe how much progress we've made this year. I'm so glad I started working with you. My wife even said she feels less stressed about money now. Thank you for everything you do!”

Practice Objectives

  • 1Accept the compliment graciously
  • 2Transition naturally to the referral ask
  • 3Be specific about who you're looking for
  • 4Make it easy to accept or decline without sharing anyone's private information
  • 5Don't be pushy or diminish the moment
Roleplay Scenario

The "I'll Think About It"

A client who says they'll think of people but never follows up

Setup

You've asked this client for referrals twice before. Each time they say "let me think about who I know" but never follow up. You want to try again without being annoying.

Client says:

“Oh, you know, I did mean to think about that. I just couldn't come up with anyone off the top of my head. Everyone I know already has someone, I think. But I'll keep my ears open!”

Practice Objectives

  • 1Accept that they may not want to make introductions
  • 2Help them think more specifically
  • 3Describe whom you serve without requesting private details about acquaintances
  • 4Make it concrete without being pushy
  • 5Offer an easy "out" if they genuinely can't think of anyone
Roleplay Scenario

The Reluctant Referrer

A client who seems uncomfortable with the idea

Setup

When you mention referrals, this client gets visibly uncomfortable. They've never referred anyone despite being a happy client for years. You sense there's something beneath the surface.

Client says:

“*Shifts uncomfortably* Um, yeah, I mean... I don't really like to mix business with my personal relationships, you know? I keep those things separate. I hope that's okay.”

Practice Objectives

  • 1Respect their boundary completely
  • 2Get curious about why (without interrogating)
  • 3Understand their concern
  • 4Do not substitute pressure for reviews or testimonials when they decline
  • 5Make clear you value them regardless of referrals
Test Your Knowledge

Which reason best supports considering an optional introduction request?

A

You want to establish a referral commitment during intake

B

The client just thanked you for helping solve a problem

C

Your practice needs more clients to meet its growth target

D

The client has not introduced anyone despite several requests