Key Takeaways
- Active listening using SOLER (Squarely face, Open posture, Lean in, Eye contact, Relaxed) builds trust and demonstrates engagement
- OARS (Open questions, Affirmations, Reflective listening, Summarizing) are the core techniques of motivational interviewing
- Solution-focused techniques like the Miracle Question and Scaling Questions help clients envision and work toward positive change
- Reflective statements and paraphrasing help clients feel heard and deepen their own understanding
- Reframing helps clients see situations from new perspectives, transforming barriers into opportunities
Introduction to Therapeutic Techniques
Therapeutic techniques are evidence-based communication and intervention methods developed in psychology and counseling that have been adapted for use in financial planning contexts. These techniques help CFP professionals:
- Build deeper client relationships through skilled listening and rapport
- Help clients overcome ambivalence about implementing financial plans
- Facilitate positive behavior change without creating resistance
- Address the emotional dimensions of money decisions
- Guide clients toward their own solutions rather than imposing recommendations
The Financial Therapy Association emphasizes that effective financial therapy combines emotional work with practical strategies for managing finances, using techniques from psychology, marriage and family therapy, social work, and financial planning.
Active Listening: The SOLER Model
Active listening goes beyond simply hearing words---it involves fully engaging with the client through both verbal and non-verbal communication. Gerard Egan developed the SOLER model as a framework for the non-verbal components of active listening.
The SOLER Framework
| Letter | Component | Description |
|---|---|---|
| S | Sit Squarely | Face the client directly, preferably at a slight angle (5 o'clock position) to avoid the intensity of direct confrontation |
| O | Open Posture | Keep arms and legs uncrossed; crossing can appear defensive or closed off |
| L | Lean In | Lean slightly forward toward the client to demonstrate engagement and interest |
| E | Eye Contact | Maintain appropriate eye contact without staring; shows attention and connection |
| R | Relax | Be relaxed and natural; tension is contagious and makes clients uncomfortable |
Why SOLER Works
SOLER reinforces three key therapeutic elements:
- Attentiveness: Clients feel the planner is fully present and engaged
- Unconditional Positive Regard: Open, relaxed posture conveys acceptance
- Empathy: Forward lean and eye contact communicate genuine interest
Integration with Financial Planning
Egan's work bridges various psychological theories, including cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and motivational interviewing. His emphasis on active listening, empathy, and structured problem-solving makes SOLER ideal for financial planning conversations.
Practical Application: During client meetings, periodically check your posture. Are you leaning back with crossed arms? Adjust to SOLER position to signal engagement.
Limitations of SOLER
SOLER is visually focused and works best in face-to-face settings. For telephone or video counseling, planners must adapt---emphasizing verbal cues, voice tone, and explicit acknowledgment of what the client shares.
Reflective Statements and Paraphrasing
Reflective listening is the most crucial and challenging skill in motivational interviewing. It goes beyond simply staying silent and being a good listener---the key lies in how you respond to what the person is saying.
What is Reflective Listening?
Reflective listening involves:
- Actively listening to the client's words
- Interpreting the underlying meaning
- Expressing your understanding through a statement (not a question)
Types of Reflections
| Type | Description | Example |
|---|---|---|
| Simple Reflection | Repeating or rephrasing what the client said | Client: "I'm worried about retirement." Planner: "You're concerned about retirement." |
| Complex Reflection | Adding meaning, feeling, or direction | Client: "I'm worried about retirement." Planner: "The uncertainty about whether you'll have enough is weighing on you." |
| Amplified Reflection | Slightly exaggerating to allow client to back off or clarify | Client: "I just don't want to look at my investments." Planner: "You'd prefer to never think about money at all." |
| Double-Sided Reflection | Acknowledging both sides of ambivalence | "On one hand, you want to save more, and on the other, you really value your current lifestyle." |
The 2:1 Ratio
In motivational interviewing, therapists aim for a ratio of 2 reflections for every 1 question. Too many questions can feel like an interrogation; reflections feel like understanding.
Why Reflection Works
- Clients feel heard: When you accurately reflect, clients know you understand
- Deepens client insight: Hearing their thoughts reflected back helps clients process
- Reduces defensiveness: Reflection feels supportive rather than challenging
- Builds momentum: Accurate reflections encourage clients to continue sharing
Motivational Interviewing Techniques: OARS
OARS represents the four core communication skills used in motivational interviewing. These techniques are used "early and often" throughout the MI approach.
The OARS Framework
| Skill | Description | Purpose |
|---|---|---|
| O - Open-Ended Questions | Questions that can't be answered with "yes" or "no" | Draw out experiences, perspectives, and ideas |
| A - Affirmations | Statements recognizing client strengths and efforts | Build confidence and self-efficacy |
| R - Reflective Listening | Restating what the client said, often with added meaning | Demonstrate understanding and deepen insight |
| S - Summarizing | Collecting and organizing what the client has shared | Reinforce themes and transition between topics |
Open-Ended Questions
Open questions invite exploration and cannot be answered with a simple "yes" or "no."
Closed vs. Open Questions:
| Closed (Less Effective) | Open (More Effective) |
|---|---|
| "Do you want to save more?" | "What are your thoughts about increasing your savings?" |
| "Are you worried about retirement?" | "What concerns you most about retirement?" |
| "Do you have any debt?" | "Tell me about your current financial obligations." |
| "Is this plan acceptable?" | "What adjustments would make this plan work better for you?" |
Best Practices:
- Start with "What," "How," "Tell me about," or "Help me understand"
- Avoid leading questions that suggest the "right" answer
- Follow open questions with reflection, not more questions
- Use evocative questions that guide reflection on change: "How might things be different if you achieved this goal?"
Affirmations
Affirmations recognize client strengths and acknowledge positive behaviors, no matter how small.
Key Principles:
- Must be genuine: Clients detect insincerity immediately
- Focus on specific behaviors: "You've been consistent with your contributions for three years" vs. "You're doing great"
- Acknowledge effort, not just outcomes: "It took courage to come in and discuss this"
- Build self-efficacy: Help clients see their own capacity for change
Examples in Financial Planning:
- "You've shown real commitment by tracking your spending for three months."
- "It takes strength to acknowledge that debt and take steps to address it."
- "Your dedication to your children's education is evident in how you prioritize saving for them."
- "Coming to this meeting despite your anxiety about finances shows your determination."
Caution: Affirmations should not feel like empty praise or flattery. They must reflect genuine recognition of real strengths or efforts.
Reflective Listening
(See detailed section on Reflective Statements above)
Key Point: Reflective listening is the most important and challenging MI skill. Aim for a 2:1 ratio of reflections to questions.
Summarizing
Summaries collect what the client has shared and present it back in an organized way.
Types of Summaries:
| Type | Purpose | Example |
|---|---|---|
| Collecting Summary | Reinforces what client has said | "So far you've mentioned concerns about retirement savings, your daughter's college costs, and paying off the house..." |
| Linking Summary | Connects two separate parts of the conversation | "Earlier you mentioned valuing security, and now you're talking about wanting to travel more. How do you see those fitting together?" |
| Transitioning Summary | Moves to a new topic or wraps up | "We've covered your concerns about debt and your goals for retirement. Before we move on, is there anything else about your current situation?" |
Best Practices:
- Begin with "So..." or "Let me make sure I understand..."
- Include both sides of ambivalence when present
- End with an invitation for correction or addition
- Use strategically to shift direction or emphasize key points
Solution-Focused Techniques
Solution-focused therapy concentrates on what clients want to achieve in the future rather than analyzing past problems. This approach is particularly valuable in financial planning because it emphasizes client strengths and existing resources.
The Miracle Question
The Miracle Question is a powerful technique for helping clients envision their ideal future and identify concrete steps toward it.
Standard Formulation: "Suppose tonight, while you're sleeping, a miracle happens and the problem we've been discussing is solved. But because you were asleep, you don't know the miracle happened. When you wake up tomorrow morning, what will be different that will tell you a miracle has occurred?"
Financial Planning Adaptation: "Imagine you wake up tomorrow and your financial worries have completely disappeared. Everything is exactly as you'd want it. What's the first thing you'd notice? What would be different?"
Why It Works:
- Gives permission to think beyond current limitations
- Creates vivid imagery of success
- Identifies concrete details that reveal underlying values and goals
- Shifts focus from problems to solutions
- Generates hope and motivation
Follow-Up Questions:
- "What else would be different?"
- "How would [spouse/children] know something had changed?"
- "What would you be doing differently?"
- "What small part of this miracle is already happening?"
Scaling Questions
Scaling questions help clients assess their current position and identify small, actionable steps forward.
Basic Format: "On a scale of 0 to 10, where 10 is [goal achieved] and 0 is [worst case], where would you say you are right now?"
Examples in Financial Planning:
- "On a scale of 0 to 10, how confident are you in your ability to stick to this spending plan?"
- "Where would you rate your current level of financial stress, with 10 being completely stressed and 0 being completely relaxed?"
- "On a scale of 0 to 10, how ready are you to start increasing your 401(k) contributions?"
Powerful Follow-Up Questions:
| Follow-Up | Purpose |
|---|---|
| "What would it take to move from a 4 to a 5?" | Identifies small, achievable next steps |
| "What helped you get to a 4 rather than a 3?" | Highlights existing strengths and resources |
| "What would a 6 look like?" | Clarifies goals and success criteria |
| "What's one thing you could do this week to move up half a point?" | Creates immediate action |
Research Finding: Scaling questions are particularly effective at generating specific action steps, even more so than miracle questions or exception questions.
Reframing Negative Thoughts
Reframing involves helping clients see situations from a different perspective, transforming perceived negatives into potential positives or opportunities.
How Reframing Works: The situation doesn't change, but the meaning the client assigns to it shifts, opening new possibilities for response.
Examples in Financial Planning:
| Client Statement | Reframe |
|---|---|
| "I'm terrible with money." | "You've identified an area you want to grow in, which is the first step toward change." |
| "I can't stop spending." | "You've been using spending to meet some need. Let's figure out what that need is and find other ways to meet it." |
| "It's too late to save for retirement." | "Every year you save from now on improves your future. Where you start doesn't determine where you can finish." |
| "I failed at budgeting." | "You learned what doesn't work for you, which brings you closer to finding what does." |
| "I don't make enough to save." | "You're managing to cover your expenses, which means you have money management skills we can build on." |
Principles of Effective Reframing:
- Don't dismiss the client's feelings: Acknowledge the difficulty before reframing
- Make it genuine: Forced positivity feels dismissive
- Connect to client values: The reframe should resonate with what matters to them
- Offer, don't impose: "Another way to look at this might be..." rather than "You should think about it this way"
When to Use Each Technique
Different techniques are most effective at different points in the client relationship and for different purposes.
| Technique | Best Used When... | Example Situation |
|---|---|---|
| SOLER | Throughout all client interactions | Initial meetings, any face-to-face conversation |
| Open Questions | Exploring client situation and values | Discovery meetings, understanding concerns |
| Affirmations | Client shows effort or strength | Client shares a difficult financial truth, makes positive change |
| Reflective Listening | Client shares feelings or experiences | Client expresses anxiety, frustration, or ambivalence |
| Summarizing | Transitioning topics or wrapping up | End of discovery, moving from analysis to recommendations |
| Miracle Question | Client is stuck or lacks vision | Client can't articulate goals, feels hopeless |
| Scaling Questions | Assessing readiness or progress | Gauging commitment, planning next steps |
| Reframing | Client has negative self-talk or limiting beliefs | Client sees situation as hopeless or unchangeable |
Integrating Techniques: A Practical Example
Scenario: A client says, "I know I should be saving more for retirement, but I just can't seem to do it. I always find something else to spend money on."
Integrated Response:
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Reflection: "It sounds like there's a gap between what you want to do and what's actually happening with your savings." (Acknowledges the struggle)
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Open Question: "What tends to come up that leads to spending instead of saving?" (Explores the situation)
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Affirmation: "The fact that you're aware of this pattern and brought it up shows you're taking your retirement seriously." (Builds confidence)
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Scaling Question: "On a scale of 0 to 10, how important is it to you to change this pattern?" (Assesses motivation)
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If appropriate - Miracle Question: "If you woke up tomorrow and this was no longer a struggle, what would be different about how you handle money?" (Creates vision)
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Summary: "So you're very motivated to change---you rated it an 8---and you've identified that impulse purchases are the main challenge. You mentioned that automatic transfers might help remove the decision-making. Would you like to explore setting that up?" (Organizes and transitions)
Quiz Questions
Question 1: A financial planner says to a client, "On one hand, you want to pay off your mortgage early, and on the other hand, you value having accessible cash for emergencies." What type of reflective statement is this?
A) Simple reflection B) Amplified reflection C) Double-sided reflection D) Transitioning summary
Correct Answer: C) Double-sided reflection
Explanation: A double-sided reflection acknowledges both sides of a client's ambivalence, connecting them with "on one hand... on the other hand" or similar language. This technique is particularly useful in motivational interviewing to help clients hear their own ambivalence and work through it.
Question 2: According to the OARS framework in motivational interviewing, what is the recommended ratio of reflective statements to questions?
A) 1 reflection for every 2 questions B) Equal numbers of reflections and questions C) 2 reflections for every 1 question D) Only reflections, no questions
Correct Answer: C) 2 reflections for every 1 question
Explanation: In motivational interviewing, practitioners aim for a 2:1 ratio of reflections to questions. Too many questions can feel like an interrogation and create defensiveness. Reflections feel supportive and help clients feel understood while deepening their own insight.
Question 3: A client says, "I've tried budgeting before and I always fail. What's the point of trying again?" Which technique would be MOST appropriate for the planner to use first?
A) Immediately suggest a different budgeting app B) Use a scaling question to assess readiness C) Reframe the "failures" as learning experiences D) Ask the Miracle Question
Correct Answer: C) Reframe the "failures" as learning experiences
Explanation: The client is expressing a limiting belief based on past experiences. Reframing helps them see those experiences differently---as learning opportunities rather than proof of inability. An example reframe: "It sounds like you've learned several approaches that don't work for you. That brings you closer to finding one that does." This addresses the negative self-talk before moving to action-oriented techniques.
What does the "A" in the OARS motivational interviewing framework stand for?
Which element of the SOLER active listening model addresses the practitioner's body language regarding crossed arms?