Key Takeaways

  • Positive guidance teaches what TO do, not just what not to do
  • Prevention is the best guidance: clear expectations, consistent routines
  • Use redirection, positive statements, and choices
  • Never use physical punishment, humiliation, or withholding food
  • Support self-regulation by teaching calming strategies and problem-solving
Last updated: January 2026

Positive Guidance

Functional Area 10 focuses on providing a supportive environment in which children can begin to learn and practice appropriate and acceptable behaviors and develop self-regulation.

What is Positive Guidance?

Positive guidance is an approach that:

  • Teaches children what TO do (not just what not to do)
  • Sets clear, consistent expectations
  • Uses logical and natural consequences
  • Maintains the child's dignity
  • Builds self-regulation skills

Why Behavior Happens

Consider the ABCs of Behavior:

  • Antecedent: What happened before the behavior?
  • Behavior: What did the child do?
  • Consequence: What happened after?

Common Causes of Challenging Behavior:

  • Developmental stages (testing limits is normal)
  • Unmet needs (tired, hungry, overwhelmed)
  • Environmental factors (overstimulated, transitions)
  • Lack of skills (doesn't know what to do)
  • Need for attention or control

Prevention Strategies

The best guidance is prevention:

StrategyExample
Clear expectations"We walk inside"
Consistent routinesPredictable schedule
Engaging environmentInteresting activities
Adequate supervisionAdults positioned to see all
Appropriate challengesNot too easy, not too hard
Advance notice"5 more minutes until cleanup"

Positive Guidance Techniques

1. Redirection Guide children to appropriate activities.

  • "The blocks are for building. You can throw the ball outside."

2. Positive Statements Tell children what TO do.

  • Instead of "Don't run!" → "Please walk inside."
  • Instead of "Stop yelling!" → "Use your indoor voice."

3. Giving Choices Offer two acceptable options.

  • "Would you like to clean up blocks or books first?"
  • "You can sit here or there at circle time."

4. Natural and Logical Consequences

  • Natural: If you don't eat lunch, you'll be hungry.
  • Logical: If you throw sand, you leave the sandbox.

5. Problem-Solving Help children think through issues.

  • "What can we do when two people want the same toy?"

What NOT to Do

Never use:

  • Physical punishment (hitting, spanking)
  • Withholding food as punishment
  • Isolation (closets, dark rooms)
  • Humiliation or shaming
  • Yelling or threats
  • Labeling children ("bad boy")

Time-Out Considerations

If using time-out:

  • Brief (1 minute per year of age)
  • Calm, non-punitive approach
  • Not for children under 3
  • Child should understand why
  • Return to activity quickly

Better alternatives:

  • Time-in (staying with child to calm)
  • Quiet corner with calming activities
  • Brief break from activity

Supporting Self-Regulation

Help children learn to manage their own behavior:

SkillHow to Support
Recognizing emotionsLabel feelings, use emotion charts
Calming downTeach deep breathing, quiet corner
Impulse controlGames like Simon Says, Red Light Green Light
Problem-solvingTalk through solutions
Following rulesConsistent expectations, visual reminders
Test Your Knowledge

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Test Your Knowledge

According to positive guidance principles, what should you NEVER do?

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